First time trying to have a relationship. He is nice, hardworking, has a steady job, loves his family. But seems needy and wants to send messages every day. I feel like it’s getting too much, and I dread his messages. I long for those days when I had no one to send messages to. I was always a lonely person, and now, it seems like I cannot have emotions towards this guy. Doesn’t help that he seems like my father: overly religious, old fashioned. Plus he’s not cute and he’s short. I’m not a looker either, and I know I have no good chances with even moderately good looking guys, so I should be grateful someone looked at me and liked what he saw. But I don’t feel any attraction whatsoever to him, and am actually repulsed when thinking of kissing him (we haven’t got to that stage yet). Sometimes I feel like I am a robot – no feelings or empathy, no attachments. I had resigned to living on my own before I met him, and to be honest I wish that more after I met him. But again, I don’t feel like telling him now to stop, as he seems like a lonely guy, and has no friends. I don’t know what to do.
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Have you ever been attracted to anyone else, physically or romantically? I had a relationship like that where I liked the person just as a person a lot but was repulsed by the thought of being physical with them. It made me realize I’m asexual because when I really thought about it I would feel that way with anyone, not just the person I happened to be with at the time. I can feel romantic attraction at times but never physical. Some asexuals don’t feel physically or romantically attracted ever. Nonetheless, we sometimes desire relationships and try to make them work anyway. Up to you if you feel like it’s worth it.