im 22 & i have a 4 month old. Me & her dad have been together ALMOST 2 years. we were only together for 4 months when we decided we wanted to have a baby…it took us 3 months to conceive and then soon after i had a miscarriage. exactly 2 weeks after the miscarriage i conceived again. Now my daughter is here & i love her to death. She is beautiful,smart & funny. but at the same time she is a handful. I dont live with my boyfriend so iam at my moms house and most of the time i dont get any help. I go to school online and i have been doing so terrible. I can not even get one assignment done. I have no idea what is going on in the class or what to do with the homework. i beg and beg my boyfriend ( her father) to take her over night atleast once a week so i can get my assignments done but he doesnt understand. He makes it sound so easy. He says i can do homework while she is napping but he knows very well that she takes cat naps which are 10-20 minute naps..what am i going to get done in 20 minutes when i have no idea wtf this class is even about? & then he says ” well i go over there every tuesday, why dont you get your HW done when im there?” but i can not do that either bc he doesnt know ow to even calm her down when shes crying or how to put her to bed or put her down for a nap so i have to do it.i tell him all the time “wy dont you try taking care of a baby 24/7 and getting your hw done?” he says OK i can do that …but in reality he says that bc he knows he can just hand her off to someone who lives with him like his mom or sisters…..he tries to make it look like i just dont want to do anything but truth is i really really do. It hurts so bad knowing that i probably will never have a college education & i will live in poverty my entire life & now i will live it with my daughter.. My daughter is constantly fussy, crying for a bottle, crying bc shes tired, crying bc she wants to be carried and walked around with & sometimes she cries just because..i love my daughter with all of my heart but i really really wish i would of waited until i was done with college & was stable. Her father doesnt have a job..he is a lazy sob. He goes to school fulltime & doesnt look for work as much as he should. his mom is the one financially supporting our baby. Im so tired of this situation and im so tired of him.. dont want to be with him any more. He doesnt have a job & he doesnt help me as much as he should. the only reason i have remained with him is honestly bc i feel bad for him..he is such a sweet guy ( most time) & he is extremely sensitive… im tired of being in a relationship yet doing everything by myself. I havent told him but once i get a job and get enough money in the bank im going to dump him & file for child support..that way i will have a bit of money to fall back on incase i need some things for my daughter. whats the point of being with a man if he isnt going to support /help take care of his daughter
