My mom held a grudge to. Her cousin died. Her cousins brother , who assumed power of attorney. Took millions . left his sister to die in a nursing home. By the time she died, he refused to give his own sister a decent burial or death , he simply donated her body to science. My mom was never called . she had no idea till it was too late. To this day she cant forgive him. Refuses to even send him cards. Rips up any cards from him.