I feel sad for those who are struggling. But when I really talk to people with BPD, their life surprised me a lot. I possibly also have BPD myself but I’ve never thought to be so destructive. I understand that not everyone has the same resources and childhood education to learn healthier behaviors and have choices, but it kind of make me feel depressed to see that most of them just cannot get away from a certain lifestyle. It’s frustrated to see them got out of an abusive relationship then got into another. I think they are trying their best, but there are so few resources to really help them. There are definitely some tools people can learn and be better with their own work, but most of them don’t have the ability or environment to do that. If they can work with a self-help book they probably won’t use drugs or alcohol to solve their emotional issues. I guess that’s why religions and cults are here, because they are free to them and can make people feel spiritually “saved” or even “changed”. The change of mindset has a huge impact on people too. I think I will not pursue career in psychology, I will stay into current career path and make my own messy life better first.