I can tell you 100% that affairs are not a great idea. In the beginning, you will truly feel that your love is like no other! Your physical connection hasn’t been experienced by anyone else. But all aspects of an affair are a cliche. Even if you end up together. The couples I have seen first hand who do leave their spouses for each other, have their own issues in the real world. Deal with the issues in your primary relationship. Then go out and meet people in the light of day (if you end your marriage). I say this having experienced all of the above. I refused to see the cliche part. But it’s true. Always. You are the rule not the exception.