It doesn’t matter if you’re with him. It might be too late to say it but you should not enable and feed an obsessed (with me, my life, what I had, what I have) person who cannot respect boundaries and is going where they do not belong.

Who is the more important person in this, to you?

If it’s me, I don’t know, but if it’s me… you can’t be allowing people to disrespect my boundaries. You may not see it or know it, alright, I know, but it isn’t the first and only time this has happened. Yes, I know, how are you to know that? I know but THAT’S what it’s about to me.

You don’t know that but he does so if you lose me over it, it’s his fault and he knows that. He’s a germ.