My best friend is a b**** to her kid. It annoys me and I feel genuinely bad for the kid.
Her child is an only child, and as thus, has no way of mentally connecting to the outside world because her mother HOVERS over her. The child cannot talk to anyone without her mother either correcting her speech, or pointing out the flaw of that child out to everyone else. She wants the child to be loyal to her, without reason, that if she does something wrong to the child, she’s supposed to be loved regardless. The child cannot express themselves because the mother uses her own broken childhood as an excuse as to why the child cannot express themselves.
“You’re lucky that I’m not like your mimi, you would be slapped.”
The child stays locked in her room all day, with no human interaction, and if she comes out, they yell at her for not being “self sufficient” and using her “imagination” to keep her occupied. The kid can’t even watch tv or youtube because “electronics are the reason why the world is going to hell, it is ruining child hoods.”
Because her and her husband are both raised in the 90’s they believe that she should be raised as such, but so was I. I was raised on tv, and when youtube came out, we watched videos. I’ve asked how does watching tv or using electronics ruin kids, but they haven’t come up with anything other than, “because kids follow what other kids do.”
This is why you have talks and educate your kids. They are practicing “boundaries.” So the kid is only allowed to interact with them when THEY feel like they should interact with them. They have to get high in order to deal with the kid, and then wonder why the child looks for sneaky ways to get out of doing the things that they want her to do. Then had the nerve to say that it was giving her “responsibilities.”
Sure they feed and cloth her, but what about her mental health and growth? This is the child’s normal. This child was molested by her uncle, and all they could think about was her lashing out being “nasty to them” and that it wasn’t their fault. Why didn’t anyone call the cops? Oh right, because they didn’t want to be on the receiving end of their mother’s hatred. They won’t get the girl the help that she needs. In fact, they need to be far away from the child as well.