“When a narcissist hates you with a passion, they’re always trying to discreetly provoke you, hoping you will retaliate. Because every time you retaliate, it gives them an opportunity to try to flip things around, making it look like you were the one who started conflict with them. And while they paint you as a troublemaker, they paint themselves as the innocent victim who “hates” drama. And to the people who didn’t witness them provoking you and only saw you retaliating, they sometimes believe the Narcissist is innocent.”

This is exactly what they do. They will claim to want their “privacy” and so on yet will purposely continue to leave certain things public on social media that are intended to provoke the real victim of their narcissistic abuse…and even though the true victim may not be looking at the abusers social media, the abuser knows that there are mutuals, most likely other family members who will tell the victim what the narcissist is posting and saying. Kind of like when a scumbag is cheating on his wife and then dumps his family for the home wrecking w**** and almost immediately begins to continually post pictures, videos, check ins etc with the purpose of making certain his already shattered wife will be made aware of how much he is attempting to flaunt his new w**** to everyone.