You don’t get to hurt people, abandon your family just because you can’t keep it in your pants and then get to act like a victim. Now your life is spinning out of control, your children hate you, you don’t even get quality time with your grandkids, and you want to cry about it? You want to be mad because everyone is talking s*** about you and your w****? Nope. That’s not how it works. Deal with your consequences. As for her well she deserves everything being said about her too. Going around screwing married men and then making it so the wives not only find out but then stopping at nothing until they have had enough and throw the cheating bastards out? She is as low as it gets. You and she deserve each other in all of your misery and deserve all of the ones that are shunning you both.