Why generalize? PEOPLE cheat. Woman are just as bad. I am a man, and people in general are disloyal. Not just men and in my experience,not just bad people. That’s what’s scary.
As a man, who doesn’t count himself a cheater, I don’t make it a habit of going after committed women. I respect and avoid. I don’t want someone else’s. That’s not a healthy relationship and you can never trust a person who cheated to be with you. I don’t encourage it, but I as a single man have known committed women who I got to know, respected, and we slowly, naturally had what could be considered emotional affairs. No s**, loads of touching and suggestion. It was both ways, it’s happened a few times, and I remember thinking Jesus Christ…. This is the most natural falling I have ever felt, over a long period of time, building, there’s trust, it’s both ways, she’s got my back, I could feel she really cared, I’m starting to love her. I have seen it, I’m talking for her too and they are committed relationship 4, 5 years. One I worked with, I believe she left her job partly because of what we were feeling for each other. I let her go easy too. No fuss. See you later, hopefully. Take care. Bye. I thought about her for a while, I missed her, but I was alright within a month or two. And sure enough she stopped by for a visit 3 months later. She missed me. Then I didn’t see her for a while and she came back again 6 months or a year later. Around Christmas. I think she even tried to go in for a hug that time, which I left her hanging on. She end up married to the guy with a child shortly after. She broke out of what we had but I think she got worried there. Emotional affairs are as bad if not worse than s*****. This one had suggestions. There was allusions.
I’ve had others too, it wasn’t s**, but at times, there were things, if I was her boyfriend, that’s f****** illegal… That’s grounds for breaking up. Like when you are standing there in front on me, with my hand in yours, looking into o my eyes… She broke up with him less than a year later. Good girl though. I think they were on the rocks. She ended up with another guy and they are happy together. Very happy from what I see.
People cheat. The only way to get around it is to keep your feeling in check, don’t get too deep in, and try to keep things in the good first stage of a relationship permanently. In other words don’t move in together, don’t get married, and just let things be. Let them do what they want to and be confident that she’s gonna keep coming back because she loves you. That’s what it’s about confidence and being secure.
Unless you get to a point where you know damn well this person is trustworthy. Time.