To: When you came by the other day I felt the butterflies when you walked in
Me: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
You appear to have had a relationship on the side with this guy – so why not keep it up and don’t punish yourself, or him, by not continuing it.
Usually marriages fall apart all by themselves, better to be having a relationship with this guy, against the possibility of that happening at some time in the future, rather than being left high and dry, now and in the future, when your lives could have been so much more fun.
R