Why do men always have to take things to the next level. A simple conversation always has to turn into some extreme action; one is always trying to prove how tough they are or how their not afraid of anything, but can never back it up.

Me and my now EX were watching a show on TV, and a g************** commercial came on and he made a smart remark saying “I wish I was there”. I rolled my eyes and paid it no attention. After the movie ended, he brought up the commercial again and asked “Would I let him go to a g************** event”?? I responded “No” and asked why would you even want to go to an event like that if we our engaged? He then goes on and calls me boring, then ask me “why women are so turned off to exploring their s********. Why can’t you just let your guard down for once? Be open to a t******** or something else, we our in a relationship but why can’t we please just explore. We have a good relationship, good life, I pay all the bills, don’t you think I am deserving of a little fooling around?? You’re so selfish!!”

I never knew he felt like this , I was completely in shock. I walked away went up stairs and went to bed. The conversation was too much for me. Later that week I told my co-worker Carla, what had happened and she was a good listener but couldn’t hold back from laughing. She tells me “Girl don’t even worry about this, your husband is probably caught up in some p*** fantasy or trying to compete with one of his friends who is filling his head with air. This happens more offended than you think, why do you think I’m single? He’s testing you, he wants to show you that he’s in control. When you get home you have to offset the conversation, say what do I get from taking part of your fantasy? Ask him if you get to explore as well? Garantee he’ll say something stupid demoralizing you, he’ll ask you why do you went to be with someone else? He’ll tell you that you only want to because I want to? And you tell him “YES”. Some guys need vocal women, especially if they grew up in households where their dads disrecpected their mother. They think it’s normal for women to get the short end of the stick. So take control, and go to the g************** event!! And act accordingly HAHA!” My last BF kept tempting me and telling me he wanted a t********, he kept talking and talking about it daily until I finally agreed. We were on a trip in Vegas, and I said we should try a t******** and he was shocked. I kept pushing and pushing to do some k**** s***, and then when we were in the situation to do so, he folded and ended up embarrassing himself; but I made new friends HAHA….Yes I was laughing at him as well!! He couldn’t even look at me but I am glad we went through this experience, he never took me serious until I agreed to do what he said. Don’t stress just be yourself, some men will be their own downfall.