To: My boyfriend keeps purposely trying to make me look bad.
Me: He is your slave master and you are his slave – not your boyfriend at all.
If it is your home, get rid of him as quickly as you can. If you are renting, leave to go to work and never go back, start off somewhere else, on your own and leave him to his own devices and debts.
You can change your name in America, simply by calling yourself something else and that is not illegal, also it would make it much harder for him to find you again.
Go to a different city, after all, you have the skills to get and hold down a job, whereas he has nothing.
Seems to me he is a leech and he is sucking the life blood out of you and he won’t ever change, he will only get worse.
Time for a change. Be single if you want, keep men at arms length and only meet them on your own terms and be prepared to drop them if they take unnecessary advantage of you.
Find a good guy, if you want, who contributes to you and your lifestyle from the paid work he does in combination with yours.
You Master probably is thinking “why buy a cow when I get the milk free” – so why does he – you tell me?