How to Make Yourself (or a Partner) Squirt
Every lady should have the opportunity to try, whether she achieves it or not.
Tara Blair Ball
Tara Blair Ball
Mar 24 · 4 min read
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While some experts believe every woman can or will experience female e********** (defined as “the expulsion of fluid through the urethra during s***** arousal”), according to the International Society for S***** Medicine only 10% to 50% of women have experienced “squirting.”

Statistically speaking, I am considered an anomaly since I “ejaculate” or “squirt” with every clitoral o***** and some vaginal orgasms. My partner greatly appreciates the “proof” that I have orgasmed; I simply can’t fake orgasming when liquid leaves my body whenever I do.

I believe wholeheartedly that every lady should have the opportunity to blow her lady-load. It’s the opportunity that’s important since it can be a fun experience for you and/or your partner to try for. You or your partner will have a lot of pleasure regardless of whether it happens.

Here’s some tips to follow to try for this:
1. Get some towels or extra blankets.

American s** guru and co-author of the original G***** book Beverley Whipple says that, typically, the amount of fluid released is around “half a coffee cup-full.” Other experts say some women can produce a quart of liquid at one time.

For this reason, you should make sure you have some towels or extra blankets underneath you for this first time.

Also choose towels or blankets that are dark-colored or that you are OK with getting stained.

French gynecologist Samuel Salama and his colleagues studied 7 women who reported producing large amounts of fluid at o*****. While two women’s fluids showed no difference chemically from their urine, the other five had a small amount of an enzyme not detected in their initial urine sample that they believe is part of “true” female ejaculate.

The study found that sometimes when women squirt, it’s pee, or it’s close to pee, or it’s pee mixed with female ejaculate, or it’s just female ejaculate, which can be another non-clear liquid altogether.

Use towels or blankets, and use ones you’re all right potentially getting stained.
2. Get relaxed.

If you or your partner is feeling tense or uptight, it’s going to be hard for you or her to o*****. You or she should take a bath or get a massage beforehand.

Setting the mood can help too. Lighting candles. Turning the lights down. Playing some soft s*** music.
3. Get to stimulating.

If you are going to use your fingers, pay attention to the area inside the v***** closest to your or your partner’s navel.

The G***** is usually 1/2 to 2 inches inside the v*****, and it is the only surface inside that isn’t totally smooth. It feels like the surface of a golf ball or the skin of an orange.

If you are going to use a toy, go for a simple G***** v******* paired with some toy-friendly lube.

Start slow. This isn’t a race. Enjoy whatever sensations come up. Communicate everything you do and don’t like to your partner if they’re handling it. Try different speeds. Try different motions.
4. Let it go.

You or your partner may need continued G***** stimulation to get there, or you or she may find yourself/herself clenching up and pushing the toy or fingers out. Whichever you or she are/is, go with it.

Then if you or your partner feels the urge to pee, let go. That’s actually a sign that you’re/she’s close!

You may be about to have the greatest pleasure you’ve had in some time if you’d just let yourself get there.

The thing about orgasming for many women is that we too often hold back for some reason or another: it feels weird. We’re unsure. We’re too focused on looking good while we’re having s** that we forget to focus on feeling good. We’re too focused on pleasuring our partners. We may not feel comfortable enough with our partners or within our own bodies.

This translates to women not having orgasms. Heterosexual women o***** only 63% of the time, while their lesbian counterparts around 75% of the time (Men, gay or straight, o***** around 85% of the time). The o***** gap is real.

I understand this struggle myself because I didn’t have my first o***** until I was in college, and believe me, it was a major surprise to realize that my orgasms were nearly always accompanied with squirting.

If you’re concerned that you’re going to pee, know this: it doesn’t matter. I get immense pleasure whenever I o*****, and I don’t feel s******* satisfied unless I squirt. What matters is that I’m okay that I squirt, and so is my partner.

Also, to be fair, it is really hard to pee when aroused (just try if you don’t agree), so I don’t think it is urine at all.

Hope this helps you (or your partner) have a different, but still fun experience.

The important thing to remember is that you can have a rocking time in bed regardless of whether you or your partner ejaculates. NO research has linked female e********** to “better” s**. It’s all about making sure you and your partner both get to ride down the biggest slide at the playground, and trying something new can help you get there.
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