Enjoy a Derrière Eating: Any Time & Any Way
The Arousing and Relaxing Benefits of Analingus
Lindsay Soberano-Wilson
Lindsay Soberano-Wilson
Mar 22 · 6 min read
Photo by Yohann LIBOT on Unsplash

There was a time when I was younger and less wise that I never would have imagined receiving pleasure from someone doing anything to my derrière, especially with his or her mouth, but alas, taboos get old, bedrooms need reinvigorating, and the landscape of our bodies demands exploration.

Maybe you have tried a*** penetration one too many times for your own liking, so you made your behind off-limits; but don’t put baby in the corner just yet, because s***** exploration brings new life to this erogenous zone.

Grant your body the permission to receive a treat in the derrière— yes, I am talking about a rim job! The experience is a great addition to foreplay, during play, or even after play.

A rim job is a gateway to relaxation and arousal as anytime play with variations in s** positions to explore.
What is a Rim Job?

A rim job, analingus, or “tossing salads” as Nicki Minaj sings, is when a tongue is used to massage the area inside or around the a*** sphincter. Then again, there is no right or wrong way to eat a** and worship the derrière, so I encourage you and your partner to make it your own.

That’s why the term a** eating is a lot more all-encompassing, as similar to going down on a woman, there is no right or wrong way to do it.

If having a tongue inside your derrière isn’t enjoyable, there is so much that can still be explored, as a rim job includes so many alternative possibilities:

Kisses:

Tender kisses can heighten relaxation and arousal either on, in, or around the a*** sphincter, not to mention the rest of the buns.

Licks and Flicks:

Similarly, both licks and flicks can be used to stimulate arousal and relaxation in, on, or around the derrière.

E***** Massage:

This experience can be coupled with an e***** massage of your cheeks; there is a lot of tension kept in there.

Now that you are familiar with some of the ways a bottom can be pleasured, let us consider the benefits, as well as the variations of this experience.
Let Go of Shame to Reap the Benefits

There is a lot of shame associated with giving or receiving pleasure. You can give yourself permission to receive pleasure from a good a** eating by letting go of shame. In Jill Hamilton’s Cosmopolitan article on r******, she explores how, s** expert, Erika Lust, the feminist e***** filmmaker, says,

R****** can be a really amazing and intense experience […] There is nothing gross, abnormal, or unsafe about it if you do it right. We hold so much shame about certain body parts, including our b***, but there is absolutely no reason to. Just relax and enjoy.

Surely, one can make the experience more enjoyable and hygienic for all, if this is your concern. A simple wash before engaging in this experience can take care of insecurities. Some, perhaps, may want to consider hair removal, if that’s your bag. Essentially, do what is needed to make yourself more comfortable to receive pleasure from analingus.
The Relaxing and Arousing Benefits are Worth It

Allowing yourself to receive pleasure from analingus has many benefits, from priming yourself for more play to escalating the orgasmic experience, whether used in tandem with vaginal pleasure or not.

According to Lyndsay Geller’s article in Women’s Health, “there are a lot of e***** nerve endings in the a***, so people can really find themselves having a different, better o***** from r******,” says Joe Kort, Ph.D., a certified s** therapist in Royal Oak, Michigan. Plus, “you can even get more aroused than usual because the area’s typically unexplored,” he adds.

If having different or better orgasms isn’t reason enough to try something new, then I do not know what is. If you are a beginner, exploration and comfort are key to embracing this tasty treat. On the other hand, if you’re better versed in receiving analingus, then exploring how to use it to increase the orgasmic experience is something you may want to explore.

Geller goes on to explain how both Kimberly McBride, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Public Health at the University of Toledo, and Kort agree that o***** without penetration from analingus is totally possible, and it can make a vaginal o***** more intense.
Derrière Worshipping is Good Anytime and Any Way

When it comes to giving rim jobs there is not only no right or wrong way to receive, but there is no right or wrong time to indulge. A rim job can be enjoyed as foreplay, during play, or after play. If used as foreplay it alleviates stress and heightens arousal.

While when explored during play, analingus can be used in tandem with vaginal or clitoral stimulation to intensify o*****. Alternatively, if you haven’t had enough and you crave a little more, why not explore the relaxing benefits of a good a** eating after i**********?

While there is no right or wrong time or way to indulge in this tasty treat, as there are so many erogenous zones to explore, there are also several positions to try. In Cosmopolitan, Jill Hamilton outlines the various s** positions that can be explored:

The Rim Shot:

The receiver lies back with their knees bent up toward their chest, which is a good position for beginners.

The Private Tour:

Another good position for beginners is when the receiver lies down on his or her stomach (a pillow can also be used to prop up the hips).

The Deep Sea Diver:

The receiver can stand up, holding on to the wall if needed, and the other person can crouch down behind them. Lust, suggests that this is a good alternative for those concerned with the cleanliness of the experience, as it can be done in the shower.

The Bend and Tap

One person stands on the floor and bends over a bed or a chair, and the other kneels behind them. This position is built for comfort since the receiver can lean on something. In addition, “It also lends itself well to sensual spanking,” says s** and relationship coach Charlie Glickman.

The Rainy Trumpet

This is for those who are ready to move beyond the tongue and mouth to the intermittent use of finger play, or perhaps leading to toy play, for those who are so inclined.

Takeaways

Grant yourself the permission to receive pleasure from a rim job by exploring the variations to discover what you like or do not like. Perhaps you only want to explore exterior play, or maybe you are only open to interior play. One may also discover he or she only likes it as foreplay, or that f******** and toys are eventually more interesting to them.

Anything goes and at any time.

But you’re not going to find out what rocks your b*** if you’re not willing to explore. While a*** s** is something that many women love or hate, I think that a good a** eating can welcome a happy medium and bring more derrière worshipping into the bedroom.

Lindsay Soberano-Wilson’s debut chapbook Casa de mi Corazón: A Travel Journal of Poetry & Memoir (Poetica) is coming soon. Find her on Medium, Instagram, or Twitter @ Poetry.Matters. Lindsay Soberano-Wilson©2021.

If you liked, Enjoy a Derrière Eating: Any Time & Any Way, then you will also like the e***** poem, Derrière in the Air, in Marlene in a Pub — Follow me there for my weekly column, Lindsay Says:
Derrière in the Air
Like you just don’t care

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