Back to Basics: A Guide to Fingering a Vagina Erika Lust | February 20, 2020 Fingering often gets a bad reputation. People tend to think of it as a

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Back to Basics: A Guide to F******** a V*****
Erika Lust | February 20, 2020

F******** often gets a bad reputation. People tend to think of it as a teenage act and most of us have awkward memories of someone fumbling around in our pants in the back of a car or in a movie theatre. The s** act isn’t held in high regards by many people which means that it can end up being a quick step that is fumbled through quickly before moving on to oral s** or penetration. But we need to put a stop to this. F******** is a lost art and it’s time to restore it to it’s former glory!

F******** doesn’t have to be foreplay, it can be the main event. If you take your time to really pleasure your partner with your fingers it can be a very intimate and rewarding experience. So, here are my tips on how to finger a v*****. But remember that all vaginas are different so there is not one way to finger. Everyone needs something a little different and techniques may vary from person to person, so please don’t think you have one good f******** routine and use it on every partner you have! Netflix series S** Education captures this perfectly when teenage protagonist Otis tries f******** for the first time with a supposedly fool-proof “clock technique” he finds on the internet… let’s just say it doesn’t exactly deliver the results he is hoping for. So, with that being said, please use this guide as a list of insights to help you on your f******** journey.

Ok now listen up and let’s start this wonderful voyage into the art of f********!
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Hand Hygiene

OK this first point is very important! Seems simple right? Well you’d be surprised at how many people forget about hand hygiene before f******** someone! You must wash and groom your hands before you go anywhere near a v*****. The v***** is a very chemically sensitive part of the body and you need to be careful about what you stick in and around it. Remove nail polish and keep your fingers filed and trimmed to make sure you don’t scratch them. You can run your nails over your lips to make sure they’re completely smooth, then wash and moisturise before getting down to business! If you’re still in doubt you can always wear latex gloves – they may look a little clinical but they smooth out the surface of your fingers keeping fingernails and calluses at bay.
Tease!

Before you go near your partner’s v**** you should spend plenty of time warming up. Use this time to make out, kiss their neck, nibble their ears, stroke their stomach, caress their b***… The more anticipation that’s built up before touching their v*****, the more aroused they become.
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Start slow

When their pants are off you still need to go slow. Please don’t jump straight into jackhammering your fingers into the v***** straight away – this is the kind of f******** that leads a lot of people to not enjoy it. There is no need to mimic p**** in v***** s** here!

Start with gentle strokes on the v****. You can touch the outer and inner labia but be gentle. Warm your partner up and tease them before you go near the vaginal opening. If you feel that your partner is getting wet you can use your finger to gently move their wetness from the inside of the v***** to the rest of the v**** and the c*******. You can also put your fingers in their mouth to get some saliva and make it even wetter. Extra hot points if you maintain eye contact while you do it ?
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The Holy Grail: The one, the only, The C*******

A lot of people with vaginas are only able to reach o***** from direct stimulation of the c*******, so please do not ignore this wonderful organ!

Start off with gentle strokes until you get a sense of how much stimulation your partner likes. You may have seen in a lot of p*** films women getting rubbed on their c******* with a hard and fast motion, but this speed and pressure does not feel good for everyone and can actually be very painful. The c*** is protected by a little hood of skin, you should focus on rubbing this as touching the c*** directly can sometimes be quite painful. Most people with vulvas need repetitive, consistent clitoral stimulation to reach o***** so once you find a rhythm that your partner likes try to stick with it as they get closer to climax.
The V*****

If your partner wants to be penetrated by your fingers, once you’ve warmed them up you can move towards the vaginal opening. Start by tracing your finger around the opening before moving inside, there are a bunch of nerve endings here so it can feel pleasurable for the receiver plus it teases them a bit more.

During f******** people usually want either direct stimulation of the front wall of the v*****, in which case you can use the “come-hither” motion to stimulate it, or they want a feeling of fullness, in which case you can use deeper stroke in a more linear movement. You can ask your partner which they prefer. And remember that internal and external stimulation are not mutually exclusive. If one hand is inside the v*****, the other can be caressing the v**** or massaging the c*******.
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The M*** Next Door on XConfessions
Communicate!

Different people like different things so as always communication is key. Ask your partner what they like and what feels good. Remember that if something was well received with another partner, it won’t necessarily feel good for this person. Similarly, what felt good for your partner last time, might not feel good for them today. Be sure to ask questions like “faster or slower?” or “higher or lower?” to get useful information to make your partner’s pleasure even better. Steer clear from questions like “are you close” or “did you c**?”.
Take Your Time

The best thing you can do to ensure your partner has a good time is to make them feel as relaxed as possible and reassure them that there is no rush. Tell them how much you enjoy giving them pleasure and that there is no pressure for them to reach o*****, then enjoy the journey together.
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Extras!

Lube! Toys! Your other hand! ?

You’d be surprised at what difference these small additions can make. Adding lube will help you move around the v**** and slip into the v***** with less friction. Natural vaginal lubrication doesn’t always last a very long time, so with a little bit of lube your partner will be thankful for the extra wetness and the smooth and silky texture. Remember that you have two hands. If you’re able to, you can use the other hand to play with their hair or to caress other parts of their body.

Finally, TOYS! Need I say anything else? If your partner likes toys you can try incorporating one into your routine. A v******* or a d**** can add new sensations and give even more pleasure to your partner. Plus if you put a toy inside your partner you can focus on the labia and c*******, while a v******* on the c******* means you can focus on the v*****. Remember toys aren’t competition, they’re aids! It’s all about teamwork.

So, there you have it! Those are my top tips for a super hot and pleasurable f******** session, but the bottom line is that the best lovers aren’t ones who have a secret technique, they’re the ones who make their partner feel the most comfortable and check in for feedback.

If you liked my guide to f******** a v*****, make sure you check out my other Lust Guides to the XConfessions App & comment below to suggest what I should cover next time!
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Mr John…she stammered.shhhhh I said. If I tell your mom you were actually f****** on my couch she’ll beat you ground you or? Yeah I know. How can we make this right? Well if I won’t tell you can’t tell. Come over here and sit on my lap. No straddle my legs and face me. Are we going to really f***? No sweetie. You are 13, and I’m not insane. But a little foreplay to give you your o***** would be a nice way to end your night. She edged up to me , saw the huge bulge in my pants. And spread her thighs apart and nestled her tight little a** on my legs. God she was warm. I parted her blouse snd palm ribbed her n******. A minute later she closed her eyes and leaned backwards, her tongue lolling in her mouth. I Slowely began sucking and licking her now hardening n******. Slurp. Slurp. I suckled her tips. Oh oh Mr John you really know how to s*** n******. She panted. Now I ran my fingernails from her spread open knees to her very inner thighs. She felt terrific and parted her thighs wider. I smelled her young eager p**** aroma. It was intoxicating. You smell so fresh sweetie. My name is Lizzie. Call me Lizzie. As I messaged her thighs she respread hrr thighs. Am I all drippy? She asked. I moved my fingers to the edge of her vaginal flesh. Yes swee Lizz you are a little slippery. Met I touch your very soft p**** Lizz? Yes yes I ran my fingers over the slushy slit. From a** hole to her c*** I let my fingers fiddle and wiggle in between her inner and outer lips. Nearly virgin as she was the flesh was delicate and lovely. My fingers and c*** tingled as I played with her p****. She gasped a little. Oh oh oh press on my c******* Mr John. Rub it gently. It’s all on fire down there.what’s on fire? My hot p**** Mr John. I know Lizz but it will get much much hotter . I felt up between her inner lips and gently rubbing her buttonwatcher her face contorted as she bit met bottom lip. Ooooo ooooo. Ooooo she slobbered. Yes honey let it go let it grow wild up into your belly and spread. I will get much more exciting. Her 13 yr old p**** enraged my c*** snd it twitched maddeningly. I caressed the wet button slowly and drew circles around it then tapped it seversl times. Then pinched it and then pressed on it. Then gripped the tiny button. Oh oh oh I’m i’m ( I stopped all movements. She unstiffenefd her torso and nearly collapsed. No no no don’t stop. Just for a minute. Your climb up will be even better. Oh s*** oh s*** I have to peepee. Go ahead let it come. She let loose snd peed into a cup i ok held. I watched her urinate and nearly blew my wad. She finished. I wiped her puss and slid my finger to her wet c******* again. Yes yes yes as I rolled my finger over the now very tender c*** I lifted her Fanny closer to my chest. Now my hot breath covered her c***. But also bared her tiny button slowly and hole. It was pink and puckered. Tho delicious looking I chose to use my other finger to eiggle it over her sss hole. She jiggled her a** cheeks trying to tighten them, but I pulled them apart and slid my index finger up into her lovely little yielding hole as fsr as I could. Once fullly inserted I wiggled it round and round and round. She gagged a bit but I gently lifted the hood on her c*** and sucked it into my lips. My waiting tongue began licking her c*** faster and faster. She grunted. She cried out as her wave of lust built up. As I sucked harder she waved her arms skyward snd grabbed her n******, pinching hard. A wild scream may have begun, but no sound was emitting from her gasping mouth. Her a** rippled and bounced on my legs. She stiffened and then looking into my eyes she collapsed against my body. Gasping for oxygen she sagged into e***** exstacy. Oh god oh god. I hugged her tiny body warmly. Was it good for you Lizz? I asked.

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