To: I hate the father of my child and I hate his side of the family.
Me: Time to move on when the time is right. If you have a joint bank account, withdraw a little extra, each time you go shopping and put it somewhere safe, where “he” won’t find it and build up your own little nest egg, for when you take your kid and leave him and his family and go somewhere else to live.
You can check out where you want to live next, if you are in America, I have always found the Bahamas (or Waco) and the house prices to be very affordable and the weather really nice, so why not there, hopefully a long way away from him/them.
You can change your name, without having to change your birth certificate, so that if he tries to find you, he won’t know what name you are calling yourself after you leave, or where you went, if by bus and you can always change your bus ride to another bus, to confuse any pursuit and you can call yourself whatever name you like, when you buy your bus ticket, as long as you have it for when you board the bus.
Keep luggage light, basic essentials for you and your kid, you can always buy more clothes and accessories when you reach wherever you are headed and have somewhere to call home.
As you rightly noticed, you only have one life and if you don’t do the best for yourself and your kid in this life, well, there are no second chances.
For sure, your kid will know if you have a happy marriage or not and I am sure he/she will want you to be happy too.
Once you make the decision to move on, it does not matter when you do that, only that you will when the time best suits you and when you go, do so when he is at work, or away for some time, so you have time to make a clean getaway and not get caught in the process.
You can leave a note in an envelope, propped up somewhere for him to see – you could say you are going in the opposite direction to the way you actually are, to throw him off your scent, so to speak – or you can contact him by iPhone, after you have successfully got away, to tell him you have left and are not going back.
Keep the call really short, no more than a few words and hang up when you are done and turn off your phone, so it can’t be tracked and neither can you.
Buy a new phone and if you want to be perverse, turn the old on and put it in the back of a truck going cross country (somewhere where it won’t be readily seen) and then if anyone tries to track your phone, it will lead them on a goose chase, to be sure.
You have made the decision to move on and so you should, if I were you, I don’t suffer fools gladly and I never have and I have the experience of my years to offer you advice now.
Any new journey always begins with the first step. It is time for you to make yours, when you are well prepared to do so.
Best Wishes. I have your back if ever you need me.
Richard
