To: To R from guy caught with dog: thank you again so much for your advice and support.
Me: Thanks for YOUR support. I’m Back!! Procedure went like clockwork this time and everything is OK.
When they have their separate talks with you, let them have their say and then you will know how you stand between each of them.
Seems she is more antagonistic towards you than he – might be a chance to point out that what you do in your own homw, is nobody’s business but your own and why were they snooping in the first place, sort of thing.
I guess if you play it cool, things hopefully will resolve themselves without your wife finding out.
Things tend to get dull and lose their shine as time passes and perhaps they will let it drop too, after all you are getting counseling and there is nothing much either of them can do now.
Good Luck, Best Wishes