To: To R from guy caught with dog by inlaws: thank you for what you said, i completely agree with much of it
Me: Thank goodness the Councilor would not let them sit in. Do not share with them, anything you discussed, because that was private between you and him.
Until you can remove them from you, like ticks off your back, I really don’t see any way of you going forward, without them constantly pressuring you, for their own agenda, whatever that might be, but it is obviously not a good one for you, when they talk like you are not there, because they, in their minds, have already dismissed you of no consequence and that is a scary thing, indeed.
Your wife will be perceptive enough to know that something has changed in your relationship with her and you have to somehow use that against her parents to stop them from abusing you, emotionally, for now anyway.
Use your s******** against them, by telling them to go ahead and tell your wife and earn her eternal hate for them and lose her altogether and back off and mind their own business, or you will have them charged with blackmail, because it is her mothers word against yours that what she said she saw, actually occurred and you can deny that, presumably, irrespective of the truth of it, or not.
Say you have taken legal advice on how to have them criminally charged with blackmail and bluff them and see what happens then.
I feel that if you continually go along with them, things are only going to get worse and eventually there won’t be any way out of the mess you find yourself in and you will lose everything.
The only other option, is for you to do a runner to a different State and start over, with a new name (it is not illegal to change your name in America to something else) and this time, be more careful of your s******** and who gets to see you in action.
If you own the house that you and your wife live in, rent it out, once you have got her out of it (2nd income) through a Real Estate Agent with strict instructions not to say where you are, paid into your bank account, which you must separate from hers and of course, take the dog with you.
You could always leave a letter to your wife, telling her why you chose to leave and her parents part in all of this, but whatever you do, you have to do something really quickly, before it is too late and you are doomed.
I live in a country in your future (12 hours ahead of you) and you are in my past (12 hours behind us), so my timeline is different to you – I have to go into hospital today for an overnight stay (3rd Colonoscopy – the other 2 did not work) nothing to be concerned about, so will be offline for about 18 hours – or sometime tomorrow.
I have your back and I’m here for you and I hope we can find a solution to the situation you find yourself in, friend.
R