To: Me: i am the poster, and yes i suppose over a barrell is a good bottom line to the situation
Me: Thanks for replying. You are bi-s*****, the same way I like women but not men, that way. It is how it is.
You cannot be treated for something which is in the makeup of your body or your mind, you will always have those feelings, whether you deny them, or not. You are a man/woman captured within the body of your s**, which is male and it must be hell for you to have those feelings and have to hide them from everyone around you and your wife, when you are as normal as the next person, but within your own lifestyle and s***** leanings.
I sympathize with you and I am not critical of you at all, nor do I wish to be – but I don’t see the “help” her parents intend for you as being a cure, you just have to hide that side of you better and not get caught out again, by your nearest and dearest’s.
It is easy for me to speak out, but I am not you.
Really, you have 2 choices, you can confess to your wife you have AC/DC leanings and that has nothing to do with her, or your relationship with her and hope she loves you enough to not destroy your marriage, or you can go to this counselor and eventually pretend you don’t think that way any more and when you have alternative s**, do it with a male in privacy, where you can’t be held accountable, by anyone, or if with the dog, take him for a walk somewhere away from your home, where you can find privacy and not be seen by anyone – or better yet, buy a rubber wedge from your local hardware store and shove it under your front door, so that when her parents come calling, they can’t get in, until you let them, by removing the rubber wedge, though not immediately of course, softly, softly catchee monkey!!
Make a positive outcome of a horrible situation, which you currently find yourself in.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
R