To: Confused boyfriend
Me: No, she is not into older men , but older men are a lot more grown up than you are. They have assets and a life style, which you have yet to achieve and it is nice, for a young woman, to see what older men have to offer, that younger men don’t.
She is with you, because you are the same age that she is. She has accepted that she can’t have a relationship with an older man for very long, because in a short time, the things which she enjoys with him, will become issues for her, as he might get ill, lose his job and well, heaps of things and 26 years is a big gap to fill, all being said and done.
Better to be with a guy her own age, who might be accepting to make small changes to fulfill all of her needs, without trading off years to achieve that.
You have big boots to fill, so be sure you are up for it and don’t let the buggers get you down and remember, if she did not think you were more than capable of fulfilling both your and her dreams, she would not have wanted to be with you, in the first place.
Keep an open mind. Don’t say “No” to anything, wait and see where it takes you and learn those skills to make you a better person and set you up, for your future, if for any reason, this relationship with her, does not work out – but if it does – well – lucky you and then some!!
The youngest girl I had as a partner was 16 years younger than me.
My current female companion is 6 months older than me and she met and married two men who were each in excess of 25 years older than her. Both have since died of old age issues – we have been together for over 6 years and we are both happy with our respective lifestyles now, which complement each other.
I went to the funeral of her first husband about 4 years ago, to give her moral support and to embrace her 2 grown up children, who did not think too highly of her, but that is another story.
Good Luck to you and yours!!
R