i’m trans and closeted, and i was thinking of changing my name when i grow up. i got a small plant and gave it a new name every few days in an attempt to gauge my mom’s response. she didn’t seem to mind, likely because it was silly, but that was good enough for me. so i started broaching other topics with her, to see if she’d still accept me without having to actually come out at the time. however, her replies weren’t very positive, as they were homophobic and transphobic, as well as kind of racist and i just don’t know how to feel.