To: I am a happily married man. I have 2 daughters 7 and 2 years old. I have a colleague
Me: you are not sinning your married life or she hers, until you begin a s***** relationship with each other, that is with your work mate.
When you work outside your home, you might very easily connect with people of either s**, because you are out of the home environment and form friendships with them and that is perfectly normal and to be expected – how you deal with that friendship and if it evolves into s**, is another matter again and you must both carefully consider the implications before you begin an illicit affair, not only on your respective marriages, but if you can both keep it secret and what the implications will be on your respective spouses and what would happen if your marriages ended because of your respective betrayals that both spouses would feel and if they would, or could, ever trust you again.
Then you have to consider the impact on your children. Women usually are considered as the best care providers for children, not men – there would be loss of the family home until the youngest child reaches 18 or 21 years of age and maintenance taken from your weekly, fortnightly, or monthly pay, before you get what is left and that can be quite savage, in addition to the s***** relationship with this female and if that would survive this “shake down”.
Ultimately, you have to consider if a f*** of say 15 minutes of pleasure, is worth the destruction of everything you have each managed to achieve with your respective spouses and if the longer term relationship with them, will lead to more assets and security in the longer term, rather than having to start from scratch with nothing and with a continuous maintenance payment, which also includes your ex wife and her support, or vice versa, as the offending parties.
Personally, I don’t think it is worth it, but if you do, then whatever you do, don’t ever tell your spouse of your illicit affair, or she her other half and make sure you don’t leave evidence of wrongdoing, like lipstick, perfume, love bites r anything else on either of your bodies, which can’t be explained away – and don’t leave anything on your mobiles which could raise questions, if your respective spouses have a look – as all presumably do from time to time and don’t ever take phone calls, which you can’t take in their respective presences, sort of thing.
Whatever you each decide, look at the bigger picture and not the smaller one, s** is enjoyable, no matter who with, but at what cost?
