I’ve been in a relationship for four years with a great guy, but things aren’t nearly as nice between us as they used to be. I love him and want him in my life, but I’m not sure if I’m still in love with him. He’s always either very clingy, to the point where I want time away from him, or distant and neglectful. There doesn’t seem to be a happy medium with him and it’s very frustrating.
I also ended up falling in love with one of our closer friends a little over a year ago. He also has a girlfriend but we’ve had s** a few times behind our partners’ backs. I feel bad about it, but probably not as much as I should. As far as I know, he just sees me as a friend-with-benefits…which is fine, I actually don’t want to date him. He’s a bit of a womanizer and I’m not the first girl he’s gone behind he’s girlfriend’s back with. We have a very flirty, on and off sort of “relationship” where we’re mean to each other a lot, even though we are friends and really do care. The whole situation just makes me feel very anxious, and due to some personal issues I no longer have a best friend I can talk to about this…
