I am in love with a woman that is not my wife, there is nothing right now but a great friendship that could grow into something we both were looking for all our lives. My wife is a difficult woman, but she has never done me wrong, she has helped me, she has supported me, she was diagnosed with Reumathoid Arthritis and I stood by her all the time, we found a natural treatment that has allowed her to have a 95% normal life, yes she nags, she has a bad temper, a really bad temper, strict and we get into fights very easily because she is always so defensive. But she has never cheated on me and she has always looked out for me. But after a few years after she was diagnosed and she changed from a sweeter version of herself and with all the fights, I met this new woman, divorced, 1 20 year old daughter, she is just wonderful, she is sweet but k****, we trust each other with our lives, she knows I’m married and she has suggested that if I were not married I would be the perfect man for her…

I have to be very clear that I never looked for this, I was not searching for this, but I am madly and deeply in love with this new woman… I am thinking of asking for a divorce, we have an 11 year old girl and by the time I ask the divorce she will be 12. That is also killing me and stopping me from moving on with my plan. I am afraid, I feel guilty, I am a mess… I know I could be happier, but there is the odd chance that it might not work and I have something real with my wife…

So I don’t know what to do, I feel torn, between love and duty to my family… guilt and desire… so I needed to get this off my chest and tell someone. I know nobody can tell me what do to, I have to figure this out myself. But I wanted to confess