Is my spouse enabling my addiction if she keeps loads of alcohol in the house and keeps buying me drinks and making me drinks and serving me drinks at dinner and every night after work? I told her I need to quit and she just keeps making them

Same thing happens with cigarettes. She just keeps buying them for me, new lighters, cleans out ashtrays and brings me ashtrays and packs of cigarettes. She texts me if she needs me to pick up more cigarettes almost everyday and everyday I tell her please no I need to quit —and every single day she buys me more packs of cigarettes

I’ve begged her to please stop. But also most of our friends and family all drink heavily and smoke. Everyone I work with is a heavy drinker too

I’ve been struggling as an alcoholic for 14 years now.

But I cannot leave my wife. She takes such good care of me and our daughter

When I am away from her my drinking alone and chain smoking gets much much worse and I often find myself blackout drunk and getting in trouble

I can never leave her and I’m far worse off without her

But no matter how hard I beg her to please stop enabling me she refuses and she continues bringing me booze and cigarettes every day like a dog treat

And like a dog I crave them and give in

It’s killing me

How can I get clean?!