Well i got my iud birthcontrol out without telling my husband . I did this because i want a baby from him so bad and he said he does too but later on and im 34 years old and i cant wait long! I love him so much and last 2 times he had s** with me he cumed 2 times in me without knowing that i could become pregnant so now i regret what i did and im just waiting for my period to be late to take more pregnancy test so far the onez i have taken have been negative.so what should i do next?
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You don’t love him so much, you’re a horrible nasty manipulative bitch and I hope he finds out and divorces you.
Well let me put what the above commenter said into nicer words…
You and your husband have communication issues that you need to work out. For a married man to say he wants kids “later on” to his wife who is approaching 40.. he’s trying to say he doesn’t want a family with you. If you fall pregnant now, your husband may react happy. but feel conflicted on the inside.
It is 50/50 an unplanned pregnancy at any age, lets a couple stay together. But if you are so hell bent on choosing a child over your husband current wishes. Do you. In the end your marriage will end up in one of two ways:
1. Either you will have a child and your husband will stick around to reluctantly raise the child . Then have an affair out of unhappiness… Or
2. Your husband will stay faithful, but may eventually ask for a divorce and still be in the childs life. You will be borderline happy as you have a child, BUT you will feel like a single parent because your (ex)husband will be uninterested.
Listen to your husband. He wants a child-but not with you,
And you should listen to your heart. You want a child probably because you think your getting old and it will make your husband love you as you bond over the baby. But decieving him with an unplanned pregnancy on his end? It will be disaster
I speak from experience, though I am not proud to say. I knew a guy whose ex wife, had done the same thing and he took comfort in another woman. He is still involved in his first child’s life after their divorce. But is now more preoccupied with his new pregnant wife. He says he is much happier because he feels as he truly loves and trusts her and wants her to mother the rest of their future children.
Your bestbet is to be honest with the man you vowed to be with and tell him you really want a child with him now and work from there. Because if you don’t don’t be surprised when you show him those 2 pink lines and he looks disappointed.
A man can have a child anytime he wishes-even in his 70s, a woman cannot. So if you desperately want a child from your husband-be prepared to possibly be a single, unmarried mother caring for a 6 year old in your 40s. It is up to you what you will do in the end. Whether you regret it or not time will tell.