Ok, well here it is. I have a boyfriend, we were friends before we started going out and we got along great, and also before we were going out i had feelings for someone who if i told u, u wud probably think it was nothing because they are in a famous band, but the thing it i really loved him, and i’ve got a friend who can tell you that. I mean i cried over him, crying myself to sleep knowing that i could never ever be with him.
My boyfriend was dating one of my friends before we were going out but he broke up with her to go out with me because he loves me so much and would do anything for me.
Don’t get me wrong i love him to, but i dont think as much as he loves me.
When he was going out with my friend i was jealous of her, and whenever he asked me if i was alright id say yes but in my head i was saying no coz i wanna hold your hand and kiss you but i cant coz u with someone, then he dumped her and a few days later we started going out and i thought i was in love with him, but i think it may have been more of the case i want what i can’t have.
My feelings for the band member had started to fade and i was falling deeper for my boyfriend, but recently i have been getting the feelings back,and i still love him, i never stopped loving him.
I love my boyfriend but i dont think im in love with him, but i think im in love with the band member.
I think the only way i’m going to know if my feelings for the band member are real are if i meet him, which is impossible because he lives in america and is in a famous band so he is famous, how the hell am i supossed to meet him and find out?
I feel like im at a crossroads one way leading towards my boyfriend the other towards the band member, and the only one who can giv me directions is the band member but i can’t find him.
I know it is probably silly of me to think i’m in love with a famous person when i have a boyfriend who loves me to bits, but its how i feel.
I feel like i need to tell someone face to face about this but i can’t.
Even my friend who knew how much i loved the band member, she would be the only person i could tell but i can’t tell her coz she’s friends with my boyfriend and i’m kinda afraid of what she’d say.
When i look into the future i would like to have a family like on “8 Simple Rules” but the face of my husband is’nt my boyfriend, it was the band member but now they’re just a blur, i want them to have a face!
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Band member, huh? I dunno… I would never think of a famous celebrity unless I’m deciding whether they’re hot or not or unless they did something stupid that came on the news… But to love a band member? To love someone, or to fall in love, as you put it, takes a certain role from the partner. In order for you to truly be in love with someone, there must be a connection going to your partner and coming back from them. What you seem to have is a one way thing where that other partner knows nothing about you and probably has never seen you in their life. I’m not trying to discourage your or something, but you know it won’t work with this band member. You said it yourself. You really should put things like this that have no basis aside and learn to love those that love you back, not those that see you as just another fan. Have you ever stopped to think how many other women “love” this band member?
T.A.
If you love your boyfriend right now, even if you aren’t ‘in love’, don’t you think that you should embrace the fact that you could have a warm, entirely real relationship with him? Marrying the band member and living happily ever after isn’t going to happen, so take the reality you have–a boyfriend that loves you–and learn to be content. Marry him, have a bunch of kids, and realize that life isn’t a fairy tale, but finding a comfortable friendship within your marriage is beautiful.