The more I get to know them, the more I dislike my fiancées family. Upon analyzing the various reasons, it really boils down to the fact that most of them are pretentious, passive aggressive snobs who consistently talk s*** about each other, yet when someone new comes into the family, they all gather around like a pack of starving hyenas around unsuspecting prey. So far, they have managed to judge me for having tattoos, listening to metal, having piercings, and not being religious…. I’m not even baptized. I don’t even care. I am a well to do, employed, college educated person. My career is noble and I really try to be a decent human being. I am patient and kind.
Normally very humble, and being perfectionist in nature I tend to be a bit hard on myself.

See, the thing that is very s***** indeed is the fact that these people have managed to make me cry not only at my wedding shower, but also at my bachelorette party. They are petty, thoughtless individuals who are out for themselves. They are generous with gifts and made time out of their oh so busy schedules to make a breif, half assed appearance to my bridal events, but it is harmful to make those sorts of appearances nonetheless. I even received a gift from his recently married cousin that she got at her bachelorette party that she did not want. Very thoughtful and gracious. They talked s*** about my mother, who has had foot surgery and is also dealing with a mental illness, at my shower within earshot if my maid of honor who was decent enough to inform me of this. Really? What kind of a family is this? I suppose my values are not aligned with many, but I always thought family meant more than this. Every family talks s*** within themselves but to this extent is shocking. They had all of the time and excitement in the world for my fiancées cousins wedding, but not for his? She’s the niece, he’s the nephew, they are similar in age. To too that off, she still lives with her mother free of rent, with two brand new cars and everything they’ve ever wanted…. My fiancée and I are on our own, paying student loans and we are paying for our entire wedding without help, cash only, and no one even has the decency to be at least a little happy for us? Does everyone assume were made of money because I have a great job? Bills and weddings and student loans and rent isn’t exactly free, we are trying and often live paycheck to paycheck. It is too much. I will only get married once, and he is truly my life partner, best friend, and he is just as hurt by this as me. We are currently not in a position to confront anyone but it will happen once this is over. I’m sure it will create a larger rift in the family, but we can’t even be bothered to care anymore. These huge life events cannot be undone. Even my mother has been wonderful through this despite her own hardships but everyone else is a d***. F****** hypocrites.