I wish my wife would tell me ahead of time if she’s going to put out or not, so I know if I should jerk one off before bed or not. If I don’t j******* before going to bed, and she doesn’t want to have s**, I have a hard time sleeping, because I’m so used to having an o***** before going to sleep. And I’m not going to sit there and j******* beside her. But if I do j******* (downstairs, before I go to the bedroom), and then she wants to have to s** before going to sleep, I can’t get fully erect and it’s painful for me and she’s disappointed. Dammit woman – just tell me yes or no 15 minutes before I get to bed, and we’ll be ok.