After drinking considerably more than I had, my boyfriend started talking about how my ex (who we both knew for a long time) was “f****** stupid”. Now, he may have been absolutely insane and emotionally abusive and manipulative, and I no longer harbor any love for him, but he is by no stretch of the imagination a stupid person. Current boyfriend said that he knew him longer and therefore “better” than I ever did, but you can’t really know someone any better than you do having lived with them for a year. It was a tough spot to be in to want to defend his intelligence without actually wanting to defend him at all due to everything he put me through. I felt personally insulted by this for some reason but I felt like I couldn’t make it clear how I felt without insulting my boyfriend in the process somehow. I’ve never posted an anonymous confession but I feel like I need to get it out somehow. He’s not stupid. He’s incredibly intelligent and hiding beneath all the pain and misery and fucked up decisions he’s made, he’s an okay guy.