my brother has been arrested for shoplifting. im so stunned that it actually seems inevitable for this to have happened. all i can think is, now we have the first college graduate in the family (me) and the first criminal in the family. im sickened with myself for thinking this, but he has pushed everyone in this family to the brink. i have now lost whatever tiny sliver or shred or respect and faith i still had for him. i know that sounds terrible, like this is his lowest point and he probably needs us more than ever; but he is so stubborn and proud, he has always refused to take any sort of advice form anyone or any responsibility for any of his actions, and if you can believe it, SITTING IN JAIL, he still would not shut his mouth and kept going on about how the charges were trumped up and how he was being victimized. it’s so exhausting being related to him, and caring about him, that i am crying as i contemplate just not caring about him anymore because the effort involved is superhuman and not something i am capable of. he’s just so frustrating and i dont know what to do anymore.