being ignored by my husband and only doing what he wants…. we have talked about how our marriage is its been failing since the start… why we stick through it… well we love each other but we are both so hard headed… he will compromise on nothing and when i do i feel like im the one always collapsing and hes winning he gets everything he wants while i sit here and suffer…so i despise that he isnt willing to compromise or sacrifice for me… so then i want to compromise less…if im not rolling over for whatever he wants our marriage suffers… but if i do… i suffer… he refuses to do anything i ask of him and he provides more for his coworkers and is closer to his coworkers than he is with me… im not a bad woman im really not i may not cook often.. keep in mind he doesnt cook for me he will only cook for himself and if he asked me to cook something i would. i ask if he wants me to cook and he’ll say no its every man for himself.. and then the cleaning every man for himself…. but he wants me to clean a certain way… i clean with more effort than he does so if i clean i have to clean up after him but if he cleans he cleans up only after himself and if i dont clean up the house (i work 12 hour shifts) completely and only pick up after myself he’ll say im being lazy and he wants me to contribute more. Yes he takes care of himself and takes care of his stuff eventually… i have suggested marriage counseling and he just said yes to it the other day but he says i have to go by myself first (he has told me i need counseling three times now) the next day i suggest he go by himself just once to say what he wants to say without me there no pressure or anything.. he said no multiple times when i asked why a few times he finally said he doesnt think its necessary. then after we have the seeking counseling at the yearly work pick-nick at his work hes off talking with anyone and everyone but me leaves without telling me his boss says everyone can go home and hes gone still when he comes back i tell him what his boss said and i had to chase him down because he saw me but kept walking i told him in front of coworkers then he gets onto me when he gets to the car about saying that in front of coworkers…him knowing i didnt know i wasnt supposed to. Not knowing the information to our joint bank account is frustrating him making sure my name is on the car he says is “mine”, he didnt put my name on the car “in-case anything happened to us” (divorce, not death). Gosh.. i dont know.
