I’d like to disavow people of the idea that cheaters are always caught. Not true. I began an affair just two years after our marriage began. It lasted ten years and my husband never had a clue.
The affair was passion driven. My husband was so bad in bed it was astonishing. Before I gave up on him, I bought him s** toys and books (with pictures and diagrams). Nothing helped. He just didn’t care about my needs, and he was stupid.
The minute I met John I knew I wanted him. He was the sexiest guy I ever met. The attraction was mutual. He was fantastic in bed and I fell in love.
We were both married. The affair ended when I moved to California and he moved to Washington D.C. The logistics involved were too complicated to overcome.
Then, I got pregnant and threw my energy into motherhood. I never cheated again because I never again felt that passion.
After having three babies, including one who was stillborn, I developed several serious health problems, became disabled and dependent on my husband.
The jerk responded to my weakness by abusing me. After being his punching bag for years my son called the police and he was kicked out of the house by gunpoint.
Thus, began a downward spiral into poverty. My divorce attorney cost $325 an hour. My ex was ordered to pay spousal support but I never received a penny. I lost the house, my car was repossessed. I had a full time job, but ended up living in a tent.
I’m old now. My son has been dead for three years. My daughter and I are estranged so I rarely get to see my grandchildren.
I’m the happiest woman on the planet. I look amazing for my age and am dating younger men. I live in a rented room. I do not own a car. But, nobody is abusing or controlling me. I do what I want, I speak my mind. I am free.
I’ve written a novel, joined a writers group, made a bunch of new friends. My health is better than ever. I feel like I’m 25.
What’s your takeaway from this?
Always be your authentic self, don’t be a people pleaser. Be honest. Speak your mind. It’s not narcissistic, it’s smart.
And, DO NOT put up with bad s**!
With love,