Help! I need serious help controlling my life! My fiance’s ex is trying to be my friend, and I really want nothing to do with her. She ruined my fiance’s life by not having an abortion, and I don’t ever want to be her friend. I just wish she would disappear, but she never will because she’s the mother of my fiance’s child. I can’t believe my own stupidity, that I allowed myself to be in this situation. I don’t want a weirdo triangle relationship. I want to build my own happy family. I’m about to be a college graduate, with a wonderful career in a creative field. My life is all on the right track. It’s just this one thing that is unbearable. It gets better and worse like anything – I don’t see or hear from her for a while so I ‘forget’ the way things are. But then I am forced to acknowledge her existence. I’m afraid it’s going to turn me into a crazy person. My fiance is unable to say no to her, because she’s his daughter’s mother. So she gets to decide where we all live! Because he will want to live near his daughter no matter what. Which is admirable of him, but… I still resent the fact that his past is dictating my future. I just want the past to stay there. Push it back where it belongs! I guess anyone reading this would just say ‘well you shouldn’t be in a relationship with this person’. But it isn’t that simple. I love him. I am totally screwed. I’ve tried to make peace with this situation but it’s been 2 years now and I still just want to pretend that the ex doesn’t exist. I’m not talking about my fiance’s daughter – she is a sweet girl and I consider her family. But nowhere in the rulebooks is it written that we have to be close friends with the ex! Why, why why?? This makes me want to kill myself. I just wish that she would disappear. I don’t want to be her friend. I don’t want to have some freaky three-way relationship. I read this and I want to die.