i think i am in love with this woman that i used to work with. it started as a mutual physical attraction and we’ve just been getting to know each other and flirting off and on. i’ve told her how i feel and she’s told me how she feels. she likes me but she can’t be in a relationship right now. so now we’re friends and i don’t want to ruin that. neither of us want to go further, we’re both not relationship stable right now. she’s had great loss in her life this year, i’ve been supporting her since i met her. i’m still emotionally raw from ending my longest relationship with my very best friend (she engaged a year after we ended and married this year). so logic is telling me that all of the feelings that i feel for this woman won’t serve me any good and will actually destroy what we built. that the lines have been clearly defined and i cannot and have not cross them because i made the promise. but my heart aches when i’m not around her and my thoughts are of her constantly. she’s alone for the holidays and that is killing me, because i’m with family. i wish i could work through these intense feelings quickly so i don’t torpedo this awesome growing friendship. i’ve done it before. i’m rambling. ignore, please. i just needed to get this out.