As you should dump him. Thats right and if it matters to him, he will clean himself up and try again.

I agree with you though. As a man, I have passed on women I loved simply because I didnt have a job or wasnt in a place thqt I felt I needed to be to persue things. I want good enough. I have also been dumped partly because I didnt have a job, partly, not the only reason, but I cared enough to clean myself up, even though i got me nothing out of her in the end

I’m one of those people who believes both people in a relationahip should be working and able to support themselves and then some. If she makes more, thats fine. You get together and you share, you chip in, but both of you need to be able to keep yourselves alive if you need to. Thats healthy. Not everyome sees it that way, theres women out there who want to do sweet d*** all, marry someone with money, sit on their a** or be a f****** house wife and sure, but thats rarely actual love. Thats a business deal and its probably also conditional. Its literally s**, body for money and shelter. And then there dudes out there like this guy. Thats the thing with me though too, even without a job, I would never ask for or want anything like that, to borrow. Thats dead beat s***. I just want love, friendship and whatever else, but then again I haven’t not worked in close to 20 years.

Both able to support yourselves and then some, there’s room for actual love. Nobody’s in it for superficial s*** or using. Doesnt matter who makes more as long as you’re each good.