Caring for yourself is no easy feat. You might think that doing it once will stick forever but that’s more complicated. It’s an everyday battle, you start with small actions everyday, and try and try but there comes one thing and it destroys everything. You might think that things will be ok when you get the right job or the right friend or the right love interest but it doesn’t work like that. Learning to take care of yourself means that you have to accept yourself and that means however lacking you are from the desired image this society have created in our minds , you can say f*** you to the seemingly good, beautiful, generally accepted people. You gotta do what you gotta do to survive. There are other people like you out there but you mustn’t create a co-dependent relationship because you will just reinforce your problems. It took me many years to reach this conclusion that if you can’t love yourself then try not to hate yourself.