Nah “different” is not something you just do or learn. It’s internal. It can’t be learned. Its natural. Born with it. You can change yourself to the the exact image of what she needs and if you did it still won’t make a difference. It takes a lifetime and it’s genetics, experience and the taste for whatever in life that turns a persons crank and its different for everyone.

You shouldn’t need to try and you can’t learn it.

I know, but it still surprises me the number of grown adults who can’t grasp the concept of love. You can’t ever make someone not feel for someone else, and feel the same thing for you if it’s just not there. No matter what. No matter what you say do, or how destructive you get. You could if you were someone totally different that the person they love, you could flukily end up as someone they see as even better, maybe they didn’t realize and then hey meet and the next thing you know, they jump the tracks because this is something g they didn’t realize the need. The person has the perfect storm brewing inside their soul (that’s what it is I’m talking about “soul” which is not spiritual or religious it is literally everything that is you from day 1 until the present. Everything, experiences, interests, tastes, beliefs, your family, what your family is like, everything you ever learned in school, your appearance, every single thing about you is your soul) and it can’t ever be duplicated. You should never have to really try. IMO. You DO obviously need to try, you do need to behave in certain way, don’t abuse them, don’t be a criminal amd get arrested, give love, give space, you need to try to keep it alive of course, but the basic just of it, you can’t just learn it and be it. That always makes me laugh when people approach human nature like you need a manual. It’s like you’ryou’re fixing a car, your cumputer, or putting up a fence. I’ve known some s*** heads, they all reminded me of Wile E Coyote reading some books on the side of the road about how to catch the Road Runner. What happened to him every time too?