So, parents, should you be fined and charged with a crime if your kid misbehaves?
Reply: The problem is that the old ways, when if our kid misbehaved, we would smack them and punish them, in ways that tempoarily hurt them, physically, so that they avoided the pain and humiliation by behaving, are gone and kids can behave how they like in class and sometimes that can be like animals in a zoo, where the teacher is their carer, for each period they manage them.
The old ways worked with us and the new ways don’t work at all, because of how kids behave when they become adults, in many cases: gangs, drugs, anti social and well, you know.
Should parents be fined or punished in some way for their kids behavior. NO!!
Perhaps the issue is how kids can do what they like now and the system that allowed that is at fault and not their parents at all, but the system needs a scapegoat and the parents are the convenient alternative to place blame, so why not, after all a parent is an individual commodity against a Law which has total power and the force to be able to implement it, without it becoming a personal thing.
It’s a bit like a foot and a nail, with your Government being the foot and you being the nail and when they stamp you into the ground, they do so with ease and without any backwards thought – been there, done that.
Coronavirus has isolated us all and doubtless you are spending more time with your kids in your home and how they behave there, is how they behave, when they have left your home and are at school, or missing school because they can – which should give you an insight on how the wheels are coming off the car, in that respect.
What is to be done about it – take away the toys they enjoy and can’t live without, or if they are downright unruly, put them over your knee and spank their bare a** until they cry and if they say they are going to report you, tell them they will go into a home like a prison with much tougher kids than them there and they will be somebody else’s b****, if that’s what they want – and to decide for themselves what their best option is.
Once smacked for misbehavior, watch how quickly they learn the lesson that misbehaving = pain and humiliation, especially if you do it in the presence of other family members, so that the punishment is not easily forgotten, by anyone.
If you get reported to the police, say I want my Lawyer, or say “no comment” and leave it at that, one gives you ten, it won’t ever go that far.
If it does, tell your kid they made their choices and now you are making yours and you want them out of your home for good and get the police to put them into some sort of Government Care Facility for wayward kids, because now you have a kid who hates you more than life itself.
Tell them you love them to bits, but you don’t like them or the choices they made and they chose their path, away from your family home and now it’s on them, or someone else, to care for them and tough t**** = tough love – they gave you the reason to manage them as best as you could and if they did not like the result, it was, after all, their fault from the outset and nobody else was responsible, but them.
A butterfly flaps its wings in China, there is a thunderstorm in America, because of it.
Tough Love, Cause and Effect.
Best wishes…….
