Anyone here who can explain to me why men pull away when they start catching feelings or when they get “too close”? Are those men really so scared of commitment that they let go of the person they really like? Or is “I am scared” just an easy way out when they don’t want to be perceived as jerks but gain sympathy instead?
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For me there’s several reasons for running. Before it used to just be the thought that my free time would greatly diminish or that I’d have to be obligated to talk to them everyday. I’m very introverted and things like that make me worry, my free time is more valuable to me than anyone on this planet. Then there’s always the looming, if I do go through with this I’m only going to fuck it up and be left heartbroken. So I guess I run preemptively to avoid it all.
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It could be many things. For me, I am admiteldly afraid to catch feelings or let it show because I have been hurt so badly over the last 15 years. I don’t pull away, I just dont don’t let myself get too deep. I don’t think with my dick at all. Women don’t have any power that way with me what so ever. Yeah shes pretty and hot, but she needs to prove to me that she’s worth my time and not a rotten piece of garbage at heart because there are a lot of those out there too, and those bitches are hard to see coming. I never used to be like this, I would let it flow freely, I always had faith in the opposite sex, until I met one woman, who was a girl at the time who taught me many, many, a great many valuable lessons about people in general. I found out the hard way. Now, I always know her very well and I consider the consequences before I dive in, and I know I seem indifferent. I’ve known women who actually get pissed right off at me, really pissed off or are baffled because I show no interest. Im a good looking, good guy and they are actually baffled as to why I’m single and show little interest. I’m not your average simp who would do ANYTHING to get some. I look at them like a person, and nothing more. So if I pull away, I either dont don’t like you and want nothing personal to do with you (the majority of people), I don’t trust you, or both and if you blew it with me once, don’t ever think we’ll be good again because people don’t ever change that way
Also, if she has too many friends and we hate each other, we don’t stand a chance in hell. Then, I’ll pull away and forget about her.
OR I think you’re not interested enough in me for what I need to commit. Then I give up and it’s no hard feelings.
I’ve known many a woman since Ive been hurt and I would go as far as to say I had feelings for them, it has never lasted, no hard feelings AND I havent been hurt since that one, so my philosophy seems to work for me. I’ll stick to it for the rest of my life too.
Also, I don’t fight for any woman either. People DO try to fight me or cause problems over women, that’s a constant, but if she gives them even a second of attention, if she even looks at them because that’s the test, I am out. Then, I’m gone, I have no time for that. I make the choice for her and she looses me but gets them…. or doesn’t take them because they’re inferior and she looses both, but it doesn’t matter, I’m out. I have no time or patience to fight for something like that. Like anything else, it’s there or it isn’t. I should ever have to doubt it