Usually, the problem is not me and how could it be with things I have long washed my hands of.

I’m not the problem. If I have anything to do with it, the problem is with her, them, it and you. Maybe you should dive into things that maybe can never be completely yours on certain levels? It’s just one of those things. Be a bit more discriminating. Before you dive into something fully, look at it/her and ask yourself “can I live with the fact that that obstacle can not ever be overcome by her even if it isn’t even really there”” I do. I look at those type of things and I pass it up if it’s something I can’t get past.

It’s like that episode of Cheers. After Sam and Diane had been together broken up, and their dynamic it’s almost a love/hate thing. Dianne is now with Frasier. Frasier is trying to get a feel for Dianne’s f
feelings about him her and Sam. The whole thing builds up to Frasier pulling Sam into Sam’s office for what they led Dianne to believe was about one thing, they get into the office and immediately Frasier unloads on Sam about how he can never have Dianne completely because she is carrying a torch for Sam. G******* it!? Like What the f*** Sam?!? I could relate to that. It’s not anyone’s fault, it’s not like Sam is trying, it’s just there. It is what it is, as they say.