Because you shouldn’t want to open a can of worms that leads to a battle, which is drama. And drama s****.
It’s best just to keep your eyes on the road, in your lane, read people properly and act appropriately.
Say for example, you are man at work and you are interested in a woman who you work with. Say she is putting out vibes that she is not interested in you. She isn’t saying it, she is showing it.
You need to accept it, and back off. Don’t keep putting yourself into her personal space, making s*** awkward, hoping it’ll turn around. There’s a good cah ce you are making it worse by putting yourself in her personal space forcing her to look at you.
Same goes the other way around. In general, if someone is showing you they are not interested in any way in being around you, back off. No explanation needed. If they give an explanation to someone else, and that someone else tells you, take it for what it is and back off. When I say “she reminds me of a woman I hated, who hated me. HATED” it is not just that you look like her, yeah, you look like her but you also sound like her, carry yourself like her, you are the spitting image. Nothing will change that either. You can’t change that.
To take it any further, by getting the person to spell it out to you is awkward, unpleasant, and upsets the balance of s***. In my case, at work. Work is work. It’s not a social gathering, we are not there to make friends have social gatherings and romantic connections. We are there to work, do the job as best you can with what you are given, collect a pay cheque, go home and live. Do you need to be social and pleasant sometimes? if there are customers involved, yes. But if we work together, or not, maybe we have nothing to do with each other at work, our jobs do not require us to even talk at any time, it isn’t required.
Why upset the balance? Read social ques, read people, it is pretty clear when someone doesn’t want anything to do with you, and act appropriately. Or don’t act anything, just back off. It’s work. Not a social gathering. IF in the rare circumstance there is a mutual attraction, I might re-consider with some rules and boundaries in place, but that is highly unlikely. Work is important. It’s life.
If I were to come out and say the truth about certain women, straight up, the truth, reality, I would be considered a f****** monster by quite a few people which upsets the balance when it doesn’t need to be. I would rather just shut up and avoid.