Well, I know (or knew) a few woman in my life who are both in the same situation. Long term relationships, kids, long way away. They are almost in the same positions. They are identical situations. Both had someone pass away within the last 6 months, an elder, both of which I knew too. Nothing negative about either. I didn’t dislike or disrespect either. The opposite.
One of them passed 6 months ago. I did not bother sending condolences or anything. I sent her nothing. I wouldn’t give her anything now, or ever again. She let me go in a cruel way, watched me suffer and try my a** off to get a single word out of her. She enjoyed my attention while she was with a man who lacks the light I know I have. She took that like the .opening paper, things her SO couldn’t give it his power life depended on it. A chump, while she built a life with this man. Unbeknownst to me. Which is fine. She also kicked my a** mentally and let other people do it too.l for fun. I got over her. I came to a breaking point many years ago, and I really did get over it. 2012. It hurt, but I came to my senses, I couldn’t do that forever. I made a choice to get over it, by I resent her. I would not do anything unprovoked, but I resent her. I would not piss on her if she was on fire. Not there during the worst times days of my life, and she knew it.
The other woman, we go farther back and it was not as deep in certain ways, but deeper in other based on what it is. I was a jerk to her the last time I saw her and I regret it because I didn’t mean it. I see her the complete opposite of the other woman. I would do what I could for her, what she needed and none the of what she doesn’t wanted.
So it depends.
