I wish my daughter in law and I were closer but I kind of don’t think it will ever happen. Why? She and I are too much alike. My mother died when I was a child, so did hers. My first mother in law acted like she loved me and wanted to be a mother figure. I didn’t know, I went with it. When her son decided he didn’t love me any more, so did she. Straight dumped by everyone I knew, like I didn’t exist. That was a crushing blow and a huge lesson learned. I LOVE my daughter in law. I do, and I truly mean that. But how can I expect her to risk getting close to me? I can’t. So I just make sure to tell her often how much I care about her, just so she knows. Honestly I feel really lucky that my son picked her to be his wife and mother to my grandkids.