In college, I started off as friends with this girl (I’m a girl too, more or less bi) but realized I was attracted to her after a month or so. I spent a good amount of time trying to figure out if she liked me too (she became very touchy with me, flirty, and gave me nicknames and stuff) and even some of my friends asked me if we were hooking up or in some kind of a relationship. After consulting a few bi friends and close friends, they felt like she definitely was attracted to me in some sort of way. At some point I developed a crush on her and ended up telling her. She told me that while she thought I was attractive, she wasn’t attracted to me and said she was basically straight (mind you, when we spoke over text once she admitted she wanted to experiment with girls, found them very attractive on occasion, and even said I’m part of the reason she questions her s******** when I made a joke).
Obviously I was hurt by this and by this point (a month later) have more or less gotten over her in that sense. But since we’re close friends and she wants to “keep the friendship” I still have to figure out how I’m going to navigate that friendship with her. The thing I’m really confused about is how she can do all the things that people do when they’re attracted to someone or trying to flirt with someone, and have absolutely no feelings attached to it? My friend thinks she might be attracted to me but is suppressing what she feels, for whatever reason. I’m not so sure.
