I am a 31 year old man and don’t feel like I am very attractive at all. But for some reason young girls like talking to me. My wife thinks I am flirting and has talked to me about it. I felt stupid because I didn’t even realize any of the things she pointed out. She says I should stop talking to them because one day they are going to get me into trouble, but I don’t know how to without either being a jerk and ignoring them, or telling them I don’t want to talk to them anymore.

I try, but I still don’t notice I am even doing anything until my wife points it out to me. I am just friendly I guess. I just don’t have it in me to be mean. I have no intention of flirting, but she says I am.

How can I blow them off when I work with them, and how can I do it without being rude/mean? I don’t like to make my wife worry but I don’t realize it when it happens.