I am in a domestic violence relationship.

At first he was charming, friendly, so honest and funny. He had a temper but I never let that put me off.

After we got married and had a child together he became super possessive. At first he was still nice, convinced me that by giving up my job, it would be better. As he had enough money to support me.

Once that was done, he stopped helping me with anything. DIY, I do myself, even putting out the bins and cutting the grass I do. He wouldn’t put shelving up and so I had to look for alternatives. Yet he is so quick to help family members and friends.

I feel like a joke.

He now has in place that I can only see my family once a month, all the while he swears at me and puts me down on a weekly basis. There are cameras outside the house so he knows when I’m leaving the house.

I have never felt more sad and alone. And now I am pregnant with our second child the abuse has got a lot worse. He regularly accuses me of loving our first child more than him and when he is angry, he calls him names.

He told me that if I leave him he will tell people about my mental illness (depression and past suicide attempt) and take our children away from me.

As time goes on I’m starting to really dislike him as a person, he’s cruel, a bully. He has already been in trouble several times outside of work for his behaviour towards disabled people and women. In fact he has received several warnings work.

He now controls my money and if I upset him by not doing what he tell me to do, he will withhold money from me.