A gentleman or a gentle man? Gentle as in not strong or harsh in quality! Relationships are built by two individuals with different personalities that are like-minded. Before someone gets into a relationship they are an individual, who has their own past, experiences, and triumphs.
This is important to know because a lot of men try to change women to accommodate their insecurities and that is inhumane. Example-my step sister had really big b**** at a young age, she was mature body-wise. My father used to make her wear a bras around the house, but my other sister and I did not. Why? I don’t know, but he said one time that it made him “uncomfortable”. I never really looked at my father the same after that comment, because secretly I was grossed out. Eventually, my stepmom and father divorced because he cheated, but this was the first time I experienced a male taken advantage of a woman. I am still close with my step-mom and sister, and we talk daily and now since we’re all older my step-mom told me the reason why she divorced my dad. She told me he caught him starring at my step-sister while she was taking a shower.
Isn’t it crazy how men will manipulate women because they cannot control themselves, basically my step sisters whole childhood he did this to help control himself from starring, so she had to suffer because my Dad was a pervert? Why do women have to hide because men are insecure.
The next time I experienced this type of manipulation was a few years ago with my now ex-husband. My step-sister has made it big in the nightlife industry, started as a bottle service girl, and now director, so over the past few years, she and I have been able to party with the elites.
She came to visit a few years ago, and one night we stayed up talking about the past and catching up, and my now ex was supposed to be was asleep but he stayed up to eavesdrop on our conversation. My step-sister brought up a time when she was dating the pornstar Stallion and I was in town visiting her and he fucked both of us at the same time. I was in tears laughing and said he made me c** like 7 times on the first go-round. The day after my step-sister left. I was bombarded with questions out of nowhere. ” Why the f*** would you sleep with a dude that slept with your sister, that is f****** disgusting”. I asked how he knew and he said he heard us talking which was a lie because my step-sister and I were in the basement and he was supposed to be in our bedroom on the 3rd floor in the house asleep. I asked him why he was eavesdropping on our conversation, and he said “that’s not the point, why would you f*** him with your sister?” I responded, this was before I met you, why do you care so much? He then pushes me leaves in his car and went out for a few hours.
As soon as he gets back he comes straight to the kitchen and out of nowhere asked me “Did Stallion really made me c** 7 times, or we’re you exaggerating, p*** is fake and sometimes can be misinterpreted”. I responded this was not p***, this was a casual setting, and yes he did. With tears in his eyes he asked again ” Did you really c** 7 times? what position were you in? Was he that much bigger than me?” I said google Stallion the pornstar and you tell me? Detail after detail he asked me and we were getting nowhere. Eventually, I just got fed up, and months later I was filing for divorce.
It’s funny how men don’t take us seriously even when we tell them the truth, we can show them pictures, videos and they still won’t believe us because nothing will fill that insecure void in their heads. He asked me about my experience and wanted me to undermind it to make him feel better. Once again, men try to change women to accommodate their insecurities. We’re not supposed to feel, want, or crave anything unless it’s giving to us by our men.
A man will tell a woman that she can’t wear certain clothing out but look at all the women wearing tight clothing when there out. Before I divorced my ex asked me for a 3 some and laughed at him. I asked him why? He told me ” I want to see what you’re like in bed with another girl”, I laughed and walked away. The sad part is, if I actually gave him that and really did what he was asking, there would be more problems. He would ask me, “why are you so nasty? Why did you do that? etc.” Women will never win.
Pray for women all around the world especially the ones in relationships, I know they have experienced similar issues.