I am in love with a married man. He’s one of my closest friends, and I don’t feel like I can keep this from him when I’ve confided in him so much already. I’m afraid of telling him, because I want him to affirm my feelings, but I don’t want to cause a rift between us or between him and his wife. I don’t want him to ditch her for me, because I couldn’t trust him afterwards, but I don’t want to demonize her and hope that she ruins everything. I hate that he seems like he’s perfect for me, but I also hate how much these feelings don’t respect him and his wife when they’re both my friends. There’s no good outcome to this situation, and I do’t even think I can ignore it, because I don’t know when another guy like him will come along in my life.